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Disagreements, creative conflict becomes hurtful conflict when even one of the five basic human needs has been invalidated in yourself or in another person. By honoring these needs for belonging, power/respect, freedom/choice, joy, and security/safety, the community becomes one of appreciation and trust.
(intention) You are accepted as you are in this moment. I see and hear you without judgment.
Unconditional acceptance
(intention) You are respected. I am gentle and respectful of you while being curious.
Unconditional respect
(intention) Choices within boundaries are allowed and explored. I am right here with you.
Choice / options
(intention) You are celebrated and appreciated. I am happy to be me.
Playful, creative, feeling glad
(intention) Your safety boundaries are acknowledged and respected. I trust you to respect my needs as I respect your needs.
Safety, psychologically and physically
Compassionate communication is creating a safe space through understanding, curiosity, generosity, loving kindness, equanimity, and confidentiality.